I remember the moment my resolve solidified to write a film about the emotional impact of rape.
It was an idea I had toyed with for a while, but I was scared. Being such a powerfully contentious issue I was worried what the ramifications would be and how it might affect my life.
I was being small, and allowing my fears to keep me that way.
I have always been very passionate about social justice and equality. I grew up in a home where various abuse was the norm, but I always fought it in my own way.
I even refused to learn to cook, clean and sew as it was considered “women’s work” which was a requirement because I was a girl.
Every time I was slapped down, I came up fighting. Which was really great practice for my life. I always manage to bounce back, no matter how hard I have been slapped down. Each time makes you stronger.
Resistance, no matter how subtle, is still resistance.
It took me 10 years to realise, after moving in with my first boyfriend at 16 to escape a bad home life, and throwing myself into an equally bad abusive relationship, that the world does not have to be that way.
We have a choice. Those of us aware of the wrong in the world have a duty to make it right, or at the very least work to facilitate understanding and be a catalyst for change.
The moment I decided that this short film needed to be made was in December 2012. I was in a flat in St Kilda, Melbourne sitting on the couch and watching the news unfold about the horrific case of rape in India on the young medical student, her valiant fight and the aftermath of all that followed.
When the guru said that if she had fallen to her knees, god would have protected her, it set off a trigger in my brain.
It was a reminder of every time someone says a girl would not have been raped if she were wearing trousers instead of a short dress, if she had not been drinking and been out in public, if she had not gone on a date with someone she didn’t know.
Why are the victims always to blame?
Some sports culture condones rape as almost a right of passage. Do the people who named that victim on twitter and gave the footballer a standing ovation realise what she now lives with? What affect it has on the psyche and how it affects her life, on the people around her, or on the community as a whole?
Do victims get the support they need, or is it simply another issue that is mired in mistruths, myths and misogyny to label the victim a trouble maker who wants to “cry rape” for attention and money.
That’s why I decided to get brave and to hell with what happens. When I leave this world I want to be sure I have worked to make it better then when I came into it.
We live in a world where 1 in 3 women experience rape, abuse or violence in their lifetime. That to me is unthinkable and unacceptable. Not if we can do something about it.
I am a storyteller, and my way of making a difference is to help the world understand and see the truth of abuse, the toll it takes mentally and emotionally on the victim, and on the entire community.
Viewed in this way, it’s easier not to be afraid. We shouldn’t have to be afraid.
Celina Wilde is a freelance writer, Blogger and Aspiring Film Director.To support her film, check out her campaign at Indiegogo.For more information and to read about Celina’s progress, log on to the film blog.
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